A Pre-Marriage Question Bank, Organised by Topic
Do not settle for first impressions. A question bank organised by topic helps you know your partner before deciding.
The right questions before marriage spare you surprises after it. Do not ask them as an interrogation, but as a calm conversation in the guardian’s presence. Here is a question bank organised by topic; choose what suits you both.
Faith and Values
Sample questions
How committed are you to worship? How will we raise our children in faith? Which values will you not compromise on at home? How do you see the role of faith in our daily decisions?
Money and Responsibilities
Sample questions
How do we divide financial responsibilities? Do you have commitments or debts? What is your view on saving versus spending? Who manages the household budget?
Children and Family
Sample questions
When do we want children? How do we share the responsibility of raising them? What are the limits of family involvement? How do we handle different parenting styles?
Home and Lifestyle
Sample questions
Where will we live and with whom? How do we divide housework? What are your daily habits, sleep and work hours? How do we spend holidays?
Conflict and Handling Pressure
Sample questions
How do you behave when angry? Do you prefer talking immediately or after calming down? Whom do we turn to in disputes? How do we apologise to each other?
Pick two or three from each area, and remember: answers shown in actions are truer than words.